Dear Confused,

If your ex-boyfriend is not answering your emails, he probably just needs space. Sometimes it is easier to get over someone if they simply aren't around. Moreover, maybe it's just too hard right now for him to face you. Try not to take it too personally and bear in mind that we cannot control how other people act and feel... It is YOU who can take control over how you act and feel by trying not to let others' rule your mood. I know it is easier said than done sometimes, especially when there are heavy feelings involved, but I want you to know that it helps SO MUCH when you are in the driver's seat of your own emotions.

It sounds like he is the one who is confused,

Kim  ;)

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Dear Kim,

My ex moved [away] and is not responding to my emails even though he told me to email. I don't know whether that means he hates me. I really don't want him to hate me. Does that make me clingy? This seems like a dumb thing to be worrying about but it is really a main focus in my life right now. I feel really hurt... Please give me some advice. Tell me what you think about my situation.

Thanks Kim,

Confused


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ooh that sucks! just let it go girl, there are more important things to think about and do! It's not like he's the last guy on earth who would love to have a new girlfriend! Or just try to have fun being single, it was some of the best times in my life!!!

kim,

still waiting for the makeup video!
GET A MOVE ON IT WOMAN!!

hugs

um i think u should move on

i think u should move on

ohh my gosh.. thank you so much for answering my question kim.. i am so grateful for your advice. you are right maybe he does need space. i am going to try and be not so sensitive. love you kim

That's good advice to remember, that we can't control the way other people feel. We don't even know how they feel unless they tell us. Until then, it can be a guessing game. He can be missing you but is too busy to check his email, or he could no longer have feelings for you and only told you to email to be polite, but you have no way of knowing and are driving yourself crazy for no benefit to you.

I think you should stop thinking about him as hard as it is, tell yourself that he has not only moved away, but has moved on. If you hear from him, that will be a bonus, but obviously if he cared a lot about you he would somehow make time to contact you, so try not to think about him, and the fact that he is away should make it easier! Good luck.


Dear Confused,
I would take Kim's advice. Just like she said it's easier said than done but you'll get through it. You have the strength to over come this, just have faith in yourself. I would say surround yourself with fun, Positive, loving, family and friends to make time pass. Go out and buy yourself something that makes you look and feel good, have a night out on the town with your girls. There's so much you can do!

If this guy really loves you...he'll be back in your life, if he doesn't then look at it as a favor he did for you, plus he must of not truly loved you in the beginning, because only true love can last and find it's way back.
Hang in there!! Your not alone girl!!

That's good advice to remember, that we can't control the way other people feel. We don't even know how they feel unless they tell us. Until then, it can be a guessing game. He can be missing you but is too busy to check his email, or he could no longer have feelings for you and only told you to email to be polite, but you have no way of knowing and are driving yourself crazy for no benefit to you.

I think you should stop thinking about him as hard as it is, tell yourself that he has not only moved away, but has moved on. If you hear from him, that will be a bonus, but obviously if he cared a lot about you he would somehow make time to contact you, so try not to think about him, and the fact that he is away should make it easier! Good luck.

And to the person who keeps posting saying they're waiting for the makeup video, as if they're entitled to it, you are very annoying and don't deserve to learn how Kim does her makeup. You pay a makeup artists thousands of dollars and learn yourself instead of clogging messages asking her how to like she is obligated to you. You're so annoying!

Have you gals seen savaii_couture on EBAY... she sells a lot of kim kardashian clothing that she wears.. like herve leger!!! Its expensive but, CUTE!

That's sound advice! I completely agree.

Kim...there is no way you're having that much fun all the time ,as this website portrays. No way. I bet sometimes you can't wait to get to your hotel room so you can drop your smile and just let your hairdown and unwind. I wish life was that exciting all the time. I can't wait to hear the real deal from you. I mean if you're having that much fun great, but I"m leary.

bit off the topic.... i live in australia and am wanting to ask kim a question... is the only way to post something on here via post/letter? or is there any possible email? ive not really sent a letter outside australia before so not sure if it would arrive on time or even arrive!

xx

Dear Kim,
I am 18 years old and I have a 14 year old sister. I am so jealous of her...she is skinny and so much prettier than me too. We used to be best friends but the last few weeks she is now starting to see how pretty he is and is kind of distancing herself from me a bit. for example she deleated my comments to her and deleated me as a friend on youtube! i know i sound so stupid but i am sooo hurt! She also doesnt like me to go places with her. I dont know how to deal with all of this. Kim, I really NEED your help!
thank you so much!
Jealous

You know, I too am suffering from man problems. I have a great boyfriend whom I love very much. The only thing is, he doesn't have time for me. He works two jobs and when he manages to score time off he's tired and usually just wants to sleep. It seems like the more I talk to him about making time for me, the more he pulls away. I told him if things didn't get better then we'd have to end our relationship. My question is, am I being too hard on him? Or am I right for wanting to spend time with the man I love? How can you and Reggie be so busy and yet find time for one another? .. I need help girlie.


Lonely in Texas ..

My advice to you is MOVE ON! There are plenty of ffishes in the sea. GOOD LUCK!

Dear Kim,

Why is it so important to feel loved? My first love just broke up with me...she says its the distance. I say its lonesome. I'm lonesome. This hurts. Does someone just stop loving you over night? I think about all the warning signs. It seems like in breakups one person always moves on and the other is stuck on their hangups. How do you get over your first love? I just put away our pics and it killed me. Thanks.

The Comeback Kid.

Hello Girls!! Me and my daughter are your biggest fans! My daughter is only four years old and is now pursueing her acting and modeling career. " She loves being a princess" Anyway, do you have any advice or any one you know that could help her achieve her goal? This would make her dream come true!! P.S. If you need a sweet girl to help model your clothes at the childrens boutique, I am sure she would love to help in some way.
Thank You!

Hi Kim.Well i'm from Portland,Or.When i frist seen your show, i wasen't expecting to have something in common with you and your family.what caught my eye was the episode about your father.My mother passed away last year from cancer and its still hard to deal with.our family really don't talk about cuz its just to hard to accept that she is gone.also my father got married 2 monthers after my moms death.my step mother also had a big family.so with our familys combind, were still try'in to get use to eachother.i felt that there is so many of us,it was kinda embarassing go together in public..lol..i admire you and your familys stragth.

KIM TO THE RESCUE

HEY KIM

I AM FROM NYC. KIM, I AM LIKE YOU I HAVE A PASSION FOR FASHION. I AM A FASHION SYLIST AND I ALSO HAVE EXPERIENCE DOING VISUAL FOR STORES. I ONLY WORK FOR WOMEN APPAREL MY SPECIALTY. KIM, YOU HAVE A PICTURE OF YOU ON YOUR WEBSITE WITH THE HERVE LEGER DRESS, YOU LOOK FABULOUS IN THAT WHITE DRESS BY THE WAY. I WANTED TO KNOW IF YOU CAN PLEASE SEND ME A PICTURE OF YOU IN THAT DRESS AND AUTOGRAPH IT FOR ME. I WANTED TO USE IT AS CONVERSATION THAT PARTICULAR NAME BRAND THAT THE CELEBRITIES ARE WEARING. KIM, MY FAMILY AND I REALLY ENJOY YOUR SHOW WE ALL GET TOGETHER ON SUNDAY'S AND WATCH IT. I HOPE TO SEE A NEXT SEASON OF IT. KIM, DOLL I HOPE YOU CAN COME TO MY RESCUE... YOUR FAN HERE FROM NYC.

KIIIIIIIIM!!! what's up love?!?!? ok... i have a looooooot of questions to ask you... not a whole lot but enough... I really need some guidance right now and you're the best person to help me I believe!!! I'm 24 and stuck in some sticky issues and would looooooove your advice!!! e-mail me asap please!!! thanks... xoxoxo!!! oh... where can i send in my questions and comments on here without having it be posted in these comment sections?!?!?

KIIIIIIIIM!!! what's up love?!?!? ok... i have a looooooot of questions to ask you... not a whole lot but enough... I really need some guidance right now and you're the best person to help me I believe!!! I'm 24 and stuck in some sticky issues and would looooooove your advice!!! e-mail me asap please!!! thanks... xoxoxo!!! oh... where can i send in my questions and comments on here without having it be posted in these comment sections?!?!?

Hi Kim! My daughter and I think you and your family are so cute! we love the show! On your family trip to Colorado you were wearing black boots, (kinda like uggs) who are they by and where can I purchase a pair?

Hi Kim, I recently was watching the show where you and your sisters were fighting, I am so glad you guys made up because family is so important. It made me cry when I saw you at the station and you decided to come home. I guess deep down I can relate to you and your family. We are so close as well. Thank you. P.S. you are a pretty girl and don't worry about what people say, people always have something negative to say. I've always believe in the positive, and if one continue to sorround themselves with positive people then they have knock down one more negative. God Bless you and your family.

Liz

Hi Kim sorry didn't know where to post a question.. but do u dye your hair, is that your natural color, and length??? I Love your hair how do i get mine to look like that? Thanx love ya!

wow you definately dont need to give people advice about guys!

Hi, Kim, what's up? My life has been a total roller coaster for the last six months. First, my girlfriend breaks up with me after eight months to find somebody else on Yahoo Messenger of all places in November then in April where i used to work in a grocery store, I lose my full time status to a guy that came back after quitting twice. Normally this would be a situation anyone could find theirselves in but this is the first time it's happened to me and I feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me. See, with the job thing people have told me you have to start somewhere, well, in 2005, i did that. I started in a grocery store as a bagger for 5.50 an hour at a Kroger not far from where I live and i moved up to the frozen section but I got too greedy and left a really good bunch of people for a bunch of jerks. So, let me ask you Kim, how do you start over when you've already tried?. I just needed to get it off my chest and with my girlfriend, she was the first one i've ever had. Write me back and let me know what you think? thanks!

how do we get u to answer our quetsions

Confused,
It may be possible that he can NOT get your e-mails, because of his location. If however, you feel in your heart of hearts that the relationship is going south, tell him to kick rocks! It may seem like the end of the world, but trust me, it won't be. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Stevie,
I know you asked Kim for her advice, but I'm going to give it to you straight up, guy to guy: FORGET ABOUT HER! I know, easier said than done. In due time you'll find someone that will want what you have to offer. As far as starting over again, you will find as life goes on, you will "start over" many times. In fact you may be starting over and not realizing it. Think of a goal(s) that you want to achieve at this stage in your life, and be like Nike and "JUST DO IT."

I am a big fan of "Keeping Up With The Kardashians". Reminds me of my own family, except we'd get bleeped a lot more :) Anyway, good luck to the Kardashian family on their next season.

Dear Kim, I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I need a serious pick me up and some make-up and style tips for a newly single girl. I love the show and I really look up to you and your sisters for just about everything. So can you give me some advice??

Hey Kim! I am a huge fan of yours! I remember in a episode that you don't drink at all. I think I have a problem when I drink. I turn into a person that I am completely not. Even my daughter tells me not to drink anymoreand she is only five years-old. I do stupid things that would hurt people and myself. Could you please help me and give me some words of wisdom on how to stop? Please help me Kim! Thank you and I look forwarding on reading your reply.

Hey Kim! I am a huge fan of yours! I remember in a episode that you don't drink at all. I think I have a problem when I drink. I turn into a person that I am completely not. Even my daughter tells me not to drink anymoreand she is only five years-old. I do stupid things that would hurt people and myself. Could you please help me and give me some words of wisdom on how to stop? Please help me Kim! Thank you and I look forwarding on reading your reply.

Hey Kim! I am a huge fan of yours! I remember in a episode that you don't drink at all. I think I have a problem when I drink. I turn into a person that I am completely not. Even my daughter tells me not to drink anymoreand she is only five years-old. I do stupid things that would hurt people and myself. Could you please help me and give me some words of wisdom on how to stop? Please help me Kim! Thank you and I look forwarding on reading your reply.

Hey Kim,

I liked this boy at school and basically everyone found out,one of my friends knew also but lately shes been all over him and flirting w/ him.they whisper in each others ear when im around and it makes me sick.Last day of school it turns out they've been going out for a while should i let i go or confront her about it.

Dear Kim,

I would love to be able to get some advice from an LA resident and I think you are the perfect person to ask. My daughter and I are flying out there in August (from MN) so she can meet with agents and hopefully audition for some things (she's 16). We've covered the hotel and car rental but being a single mom, I don't know where to stay that's safe and affordable for 2 weeks. I wish we had family there but we don't. Any advice?? What areas are safe but affordable?

Thanks,

Another Kim

Dear Kim

I would love to be able to get some advice from an LA resident and I think you are the perfect person to ask. My daughter and I are flying out there in August, from MN, so she can meet with agents and hopefully audition for some things (she's 16). We've covered the hotel and car rental but being a single mom, I don't know where to stay that's safe and affordable for 2 weeks. I wish we had family there but we don't. Any advice?? What areas are safe but affordable? If you know anyone that needs a housesitter, let us know. I'm willing to clean as well ;o)

Hopefully not homeless,

Kim H.

girl its time to move on.

i don't mean to be off topic, but can anyone write her these questions? where? i really want to know her skin tips, where she goes, because kim, your skin is amazing. i can't decide if you look better with or without makeup! and do the dermatologists you go to have any tips for cheaper products that best emulate the ones used at your place?

Dear Kim,
I love that you give out such great advice for how to be fabulous…I think part of being fabulous is making money. I know from your show that one of the things that you’ve done is sell things on EBay…I have always been interested in doing this but I don’t know how to get started. There are so many programs and commercials advertising how to get into it, but I don’t know which ones are legit and which ones are scams. Please share your secrets or directed me in the right direction to get start.

Sincerely,
Business Woman

I get that I look a lot like you, skin, booty, hair, eyes and all. But I got one issue. I have small scars from those "time of the month," pimples. Everyone says they dont really see them, but I do. Do you get scars from pimples? How do you get rid of them? Or, how do you make sure those "time of the month" pimples dont come around?

(I couldnt find where I ask these questions, hope you dont mind that I asked here.)

-Amy

Hey Kim, why do you like those molinianes?
You can do way better, but you probably don't even know it...

Nikole says:
Hey Kim I never do this kind of thing email anyone like your self. i figured you never read this kind of shit anyway. But I was writing you to ask a favor of you I am trying to make up with my boyfriend for something i did a few months ago, We have been dating 4 years and i want to spend my life with him. I think with your help that would be great. If somehow you can email me write me with a autograph picture or if you could meet him I would pay you anything. This will really show him how far i am willing to go to make sure he knows i love him. Please let me know soon. thanks
Nikole

Dear Kim,

I'm from Venezuela and consider myself a faithful follower of your program and your beauty, never so much delighted with my eyes how beautiful you are .. I would like to maintain contact with you hope not to spend too bad my comments, maybe I would not be your only fan or the only person that highlight your beauty, what matters is that I have managed to write what they always say to seeing in television ...

Kim i think you are gorgeous. I know that someday we will finally get the chance to meet face to face. Hey that would be a good idea for a show! A starstruck fan gets a once in a lifetime opportunity to meet his supermodel icon. Dont worry i'll try not to make Reggie too jealous. Think about it and let me know.

Kim,
I am obsessed with the show, and even more so you! I mean that the least stalkerish way as possible! My dream is to move to LA & do something in the fashion industry. I do not know how to get myself started, I'm not yet graduated, but its coming very quickly and I'm terrified of not being able to fulfill my dream! I am very serious about doing so, and would love any insight you can give! I've done plenty of research, and have read about how you got started, I'm not sure that will work for me...but know I cannot keep having doubts! Can you help me~

Dear Kim,
I love you and your sisters and i think your goregous. I have a big butt just like you and yess i do love my body, but i hate the rude comments about it and boys only coming up to me because of my butt. I was wondering how do you get past the butt remaks because its really annoying


love,
Kiara

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